Thinking About Stardom

Nov 23, 2014 | CATEGORY: Personal Growth

I spent some time last week in Hollywood. Right smack on Hollywood Boulevard – in fact, when I walked out of my hotel, I stepped right on the stars on the Hollywood Walk of Fame. It was both exciting and high-energy. I was there on business, but I took some time to watch the filming of the Jimmy Kimmel show, see the premiere of a movie starring Jennifer Aniston, and walk around town taking in all things Hollywood.

As I soaked in the environment and read the names on all the stars that spread across the boulevard, it got me thinking… what does it really take to be a star?

To be a star, it means that you made it above the slush pile. You’re at the top of your game. Yes, of course, it means that you must be talented. Yes, of course, it means that you must work hard for it. Yes, there’s even an element of networking.

But above all, here’s what I realized as I read the names on all those stars: You really have to be distinct. You need to stand out. Find YOUR voice. Think about the uniqueness of each star on the Walk of Fame – Liberace, Groucho Marx, Halle Berry, Cher, Betty White, KISS.

So ask yourself: What makes you different?  What makes you…YOU? What’s that special thing that makes you unique?

No matter what you do in life, knowing what’s unique about you and your life story is gold. This defines you. This gives you power – whether it’s the power to be an Oscar-winning actor, an insanely successful entrepreneur, or that amazing mom or dad who inspires your kids to aim higher and be braver.

This week, I saw two stars emerge. These are patients I’ve worked with for the last few years (a husband-and-wife team). They lost 250 pounds. But as any star will tell you, it’s not all wine and roses. There is always pain before pleasure. It was no different for them.

Together, they went through the pain of knowing that they were heading for disaster.  They went through the initial discomfort of taking action and changing their lifestyle. They shopped together, supported each other, loved and cared for each other… they were a team. Now they radiate like two stars. They took the stage. They told the world, and made me so proud. They look 20 years younger, are having better sex than they did 20 years ago, and are an example to everyone around them, including their three kids.

What made them distinct? In the two days I spent with them, I heard them laugh continually. I saw them look in each other’s eyes with true love and adoration. I saw them support each other, trust each other, and have each other’s back in a way that was deeply touching. What brought them in front of America, and above the slush pile, was their ability to transcend all of the noise in life.  After 34 years of marriage, they could still let themselves fall in love over and over again. Their distinction was their ability to deeply love each other and elevate each other to greatness.

Here’s the bottom line. You don’t need to have your name on Hollywood Boulevard to be a star. Take time and think about what makes you distinct and let this elevate you – and you’ll be a superstar. I promise.



Also, take a moment this holiday week to thank all of the superstars you know.  These people are the all-important supporting cast in your life.

And speaking of superstars… we all know who takes center stage on Thanksgiving Day. It’s the turkey, of course. But we can’t forget that supporting cast on Thanksgiving! In my house, the favorite co-star is stuffing – gluten free stuffing, that is.

And baby, it’s spectacular. Here’s the recipe…

Keep thinking big and living bold!

-Dr. Kellyann

Nov 23, 2014 | CATEGORY: Personal Growth