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I like to think of myself as “the rock” in my relationships. But a few weeks ago, I got a reminder that it’s fine to reach out when you’re stuck in a bad place and say, I need help. 

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Feeling Stuck?

Written by Dr. Kellyann Petrucci

 

It was not pretty. I had a “moment.” 

Yes, I practice what I preach, and definitely walk the talk. Anyone in my circle will tell you this. My life centers around what I call simple primal principles of life, which you can read about here…

But here’s the thing. I’m not robotic. I have a mind, a body, and a soul, which qualifies me for being human. This inherently makes me beautifully imperfect. 

I’ve spent my 20-plus-year career talking to others about their pain. Helping them to stop feeling invisible in the pain and become “unstuck.” I understand that physical healing is a small part of what I do. We are energetic bodies, through and through. We transcend skin and bones. The physical is just the surface. 

Some people preach that I should just do my naturopathic thing and be done with it. In the biz, we call it “staying in your lane.” But the truth of the matter is that healing people emotionally is very much my business, and very much operating in my lane. 

People come to me wanting to feel and look better, but what I’ve discovered after decades of listening is that they are intrinsically looking for something deeper than that. They want to achieve the most basic, core emotional primal need, which is to feel safe, loved, and important.  To feel amazing and radiate, they must have both needs met: their physical primal needs and their emotional primal needs.  So to truly heal them, I need to address body, mind, and soul. 

Just like my patients, I have primal emotional needs. But what happens when I get stuck? After all, it’s my job to inspire others to push past whatever mindset is keeping them from feeling complete. 

But there I was, a few weeks ago, feeling broken. I understand basic primal needs. I knew why I felt the way I did. In my mind, I said, NEXT! My heart said, not this time, kiddo.

Shoot. 

Here’s what I learned. Don’t feel pain alone. Don’t worry alone. It’s okay to pick up the phone and tell someone, “I need support right now.”

It’s important that you have people in your life (I call them your inner circle) that you know you can trust. That you know will love and support you and your vision in life.  You can read about that here… 

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However, reaching out and saying, “Hey, I need to talk” is not a familiar place for me. Frankly, it’s uncomfortable. I am “the rock” in just about every circle of my life. 

People come into your life for a reason, though—as did a friend of mine who is viciously smart and insanely successful. Because of her life experiences, she’s had to grow up fast. And with this comes a thick layer of wisdom. 

This friend really gave it to me. She held nothing back. It was unadulterated tough love. I knew she would, and I knew she would also give me the wisdom and insight I needed. She was not talking rainbows and sunshine here. It was more like, “You need to STAND STILL. You need to remember all you’ve been through to get to this moment and move forward with tunnel vision. I will let nothing stand in the way of what you’ve worked so hard for—not even you!” She refused to let me sabotage one more second of my life. 

After that call, I did stand still. I meditated. I thought deeply about what she said. The next day, I saw total clarity. Now that time has passed, I get it—my heart had to catch up to what my head already knew. I became unstuck and felt my strength literally reboot.

Here’s my point: If you are feeling stuck, don’t go through it alone. If you feel invisible, don’t go through it alone. If you are worrying, don’t go through it alone.

You don’t have to. This has been a BIG lesson to me. If you are like me, and feel that strength means you deal with things yourself, try and look at this sideways. What I have learned is it actually endears you to people when they see you are beautifully imperfect, just as they are. Helping you to feel safe, loved, and important helps them feel the same. 

And here’s something else: Reaching out can stop you from making seriously unhealthy choices. For instance, I know that when I get stuck, I start looking for comfort foods. There are reasons why we seek out certain foods when we’re feeling low. We’re looking for a “change of state.” We’re looking to change our chemistry in any way we can. Our bodies are smart, and what they’re really looking for is feel-good hormones. 

A healing conversation can generate these hormones—and so can clean, real foods. So if you’re stuck, and you start craving junk, first make that call to someone you love and trust. Then stop, stand still, and think about what you’re doing before you go totally off the rails. 

After my own moment, I turned to a guilt-free comfort food that I knew would make me feel better. Chinese food reminds me of college and lots of laughing and sharing. So a while ago, I came up with super-clean Pork Fried Rice to take me back. It’s comforting, clean, and way better tasting than the greasy version.  Check it out here… 

Keep thinking big and living bold!

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