Are you constantly worrying about what other people think of you? If so, you’ll never truly be you. Today, I’ll tell you why following your own beliefs, rather than following the crowd, can change your life.
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My New Year’s Challenge to You
Written by Dr. Kellyann Petrucci
Salt Lake City, Utah
In last week’s Sunday Bacon, I wrote about how I’ve learned the importance of “living in your truth”.
I received countless letters and messages from readers telling me their personal stories of how they’ve been held prisoner because they were lying to themselves and others in their attempt to be perfect. I also received letters and messages from people sharing their promise to making 2015 their year for being totally transparent.
This is the best gift I could possibly receive.
And now I have one more challenge for you for 2015.
Do you know anyone who everyone seems to just love? No matter where you go, people just rave about this person? I recently spent some time with someone like this.
I found myself in the beautiful state of Utah this past week, staying at the home of my friend and gracious host. In fact, his beautiful home high up in the mountains is home to many as they pass through or seek business advice or are featured in one of his successful documentaries. He also has a brilliant staff that works from the upstairs of his home.
I wondered if it would be a bit taxing having people come and go and even work out of your house day in and day out. But it was apparent that he truly enjoyed it. He loves the community, and in turn he’s respected as being a wonderful and giving friend and employer. His pay-off is the deep loyalty of those in his circle, who would do anything for him at the drop of a dime. If my friend is in trouble, you drop everything and run.
How is it that he’s created this success and this loyal circle of friends? This is what I thought about this weekend.
Then it dawned on me. He really doesn’t care about what other people think. I mean, we all care about what others think – but we sabotage ourselves when we do this to the point that we squash our natural inclinations or aptitudes in favor of pursuits that we think will earn us the esteem of others.
When you stop denying your natural inclinations, and stop worrying all of the time about the thoughts of others (which you have no control over anyway), then you begin to feel more and more free. This makes your life so much easier. And my friend is living proof that it also makes you more successful.
You know the saying: In your 20’s, you worry constantly about what other people say about you. In your 30’s, you hope people are thinking you are cool enough or smart enough, or are just plain thinking well of you. In your 40’s, you don’t care about what people say about you. And in your 50’s, it finally dawns on you – people aren’t thinking about you at all.
Park City, Utah
Worrying about what other people think lowers your self-esteem and stifles your creativity. When you worry about what others think, you deprive others of your natural gifts – gifts the world may desperately need – because you fail to follow your natural inclinations. You turn away from your true path.
“Nutella” Cake Pops
So in 2015, make it a point to be a better person by not worrying about what others are thinking. Get a sense of perspective, and continue to live in the truth so you can be as happy and healthy as possible in the new year.
That is my New Year’s challenge for you. And along with my challenge, I also have a New Year’s wish: for your 2015 to be sweet for you, your friends, and your family! To start all of you out on the right foot, I’m dishing up my Paleo Cake Pops. Kids love ‘em… and they’re a big hit with grownups, too. Here’s the recipe…
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